Early Spankings Make for Aggressive Toddlers, Study Shows
I came across this article about a study who claimed that spanking makes kids aggressive and lower their IQ.
say what?
At the risk of sounding totally judgmental and bias I’m gonna say that is complete bologna! These studies usually study about 100 families at the time (I’m not so sure) So I’m gonna present my own study on about the same number.
I went to super ultra strict all girls catholic school, where we study latin, greek, memorize chapters of history and social sciences, math, physics and chemistry. Failure “to know your stuff” usually guarantee you a trip to sister Exume’s office for a skirt holding spanking. Although taking this trip down memory lane kinda make me slightly angry and wanna pull sister Exume’s wig out… (I never did) I’m in no way Aggressive! All the girl from my promotion are Doctors, Lawyers, Computer engineers, Nurses, Teachers… strong smart women. When we occasionally meet or facebook we hardly recall the spankings but all the good time and fun we’ve had in school.
My point is our IQ’s didn’t drop we grew up to be smart successful women.
That was just spanking at school… Now at home: although my mom had master “the look” (you know the one that goes “boy you gonna get IT”)to a point that she didn’t even need to spank anymore. Occasionally someone would get out of line and get spank. I got spank a number of time, My sister got spanked quite a lot, and my brother got spanked a whole lot. He is Electrical engineer graduate top in his call they even ran out A’s to give him. Great kid! never got him trouble or anything. My sister’s a Nurse smart successful woman also, and I am a computer engineer, happy, never been to a shrink chair nor plan to. We never got in a fight or behave anywhere aggressively. Once in a while I have to call on Jesus to help not pull someone wigs out… but who hasn’t? especially when someone walk up to me and told me my cute little baby was too FAT and I need to put her on a diet pfft!
(If you get a beat down it has nothing to do with me being spanked as a child) So my study totally contradict their study. I wonder what exactly they mean by “spanking”?
Spanking is NOT ABUSE! it’s not smashing heads and beating like they just stole from the king. The Bible say “spare the rods spoil the child” and turn around and said “do not irritate your child” so IMO spanking is not something you do out of anger, you don’t just lashed out on your kids like you crazy. Spanking is correcting with love and patience, not pounding on a child like a boxing bag. I’m pretty sure if we compare their idea of spanking and what I know we could probably agree on something… Anyway I know this is a sensitive subject so what do you think? were you spanked as a child? do you think it has affect you in any way? Do you spank your own kids? The floor is yours ladies!
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I agree. Spanking does not ruin a child. An abusive parent does. I cannot stand this new age of thinking like spanking is as bad as doing drugs.
hello supermomplace, I have to say I totally agree with your post, sounds like they were trying to find something negative about spanking yes spanking can be negative if not used correctly, but of used correctly it makes a wonderful punishment tool, just make sure spanking is not the only “punishment” option out there.
Keep up the good work!
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@Jessica I know this crazy new age idea that spanking is a bad thing, thats the reason why the president has to waste 900 millions of my hard earn taxes for a campaign against high school drop out! HELLO! the only people able to keep kids from dropping out is the parents! and again the parent has no real power what you gonna do? put your 16 year old in time out? pfft good luck with that, but if you had started correcting that child from the time they start crawling when you say NO your no woulda mean no. When you skip the spanking in the home well the police will do it for you later on when they become belligerent and menace to society.
@Spanking101 I totally love your tweets! lets spank those lil butts
Well thank you, yes it’s best to start early then never, here’s a question, at what age should you stop spanking your children?
each child is different, so there isn’t a specific number tag on it, some mature faster than other my 2 year old got pop a couple times now she kinda know now when I mean business. I think I got my last spanking at 11, by then my mom could just give me the look I know what she mean. When you start establishing your role as a parent early you won’t have to resort to spanking anymore. cause the kid will start to challenge you and see how much they can get by with (a lil tantrum here and there in public, throw food on the floor after you say no) they gonna try you to see when you say “no” what’s behind the “NO” once you got that establish, you pretty much make your statement: “I’m the parent and you are the child disobeying carry consequences” by pre-teen going on teen age there are other stuff you can take away like car keys, cell phone, video game, internet you can resort to… I’m also confident by then if you have been consistent in your teaching they’d already know the rules and what they can and can not get away with.
Hey not just ladies reading here!! I think you are right on. Spanking in anger=no bueno. I try other methods before I get to spanking. (i.e. time out, hot sauce on the tounge, etc). Spanking is reserved for when they do something that will harm themselves or each other, such as stabbing their sister or sticking a fork in the plug outlet. Spanking out of anger will only make the child resentful. Teaching the child that there are consequences to their actions, that is what is missing in society. That is why Obama is president.
“Hot sauce on the tongue”? I have never heard of that one! and I thought my mom used up everything!
While I do not spank my children, I grew up being spanked (allot as I was a naughty little girl) and I am a pretty clever lady who got good grades in school and was never abusive towards others. I can best my last bottle of wine in the house that by the time our children grow up, the study will show that if we don’t spank them they will be dumb and abusive.
@housewife bliss I agree soon they gonna do a study that will reveal that all delinquents are results of NOT being spanked!
Great post Roodlyn. You know I agree with the discipline according to the Bible. Like you I was spanked and given “the look” that would kill a dead man (lol!) but turned out well. Although I am a single mom, I’m independent, strong, a successful educator and currently pursuing higher education (once again – hey, I like school). My son is well mannered & trained (yes the Bible say train!!!!) but will get the pop-pop if necessary. It isn’t because as you wrote earlier I was the authority when he was an infant and toddler. We have conversations about what will happened if he becomes defiant and we discuss rewards that life brings if he is obedient. Spanking isn’t always and should NEVER be a gazillion licks. I taught him not to touch things in a store that I did not pay for or was going to purchase by lighting up his little hand. Now he only pushes the cart. As an educator I believe it is imperative that parents reclaim their homes and children. A spanking can help with that
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Lovely…here I was worried I’d have to read yet another post on how bad spanking is! YAWN. LOL. I have been wanting to write a post on spanking for a long time. Maybe I will…
How can inflicting pain on a child intentionally ever be “out of love?” That’s makes no sense at all to me.
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Well when you put it that way, it doesn’t make any sense but I don’t see it as inflicting pain intentionally I see it as discipline!
I’m not hurting them I’m correcting them.
yes, I agree with what you said. I went to Catholic school too. We didn’t get spanked there but I did at home. I am not an aggressive person. I learned to respect authority unlike the kids of today.
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I agree with Roodlyne, we love our kids that’s why we correct them instead of hurting them. Anyway we just show them the consequenses of wrong doings. In real life they’ll get hurt more if as a child they were’nt corrected.
Many children grew without trusting anyone because spanking them in an early age will really affect the growth, development and psychological instability of the child.
I wish I had a penny for every time I’ve heard or seen in print: “There’s a fine line between spanking and abuse.” If it’s not the most parroted of all cliches, it ranks high. When I encounter it, I want to remind the speaker/writer that there’s also a fine line between shoplifting and armed robbery, and a fine line between sexual molestation and rape. Such distinctions hardly transform the lesser crimes into acts of Christian charity. Fine line, thick line – what’s wrong is wrong.
I can see that you disagree with spanking… let me remind you that spanking is discipline, you do it because you love your child. Abuse however is sick and perverted and IS NOT the same as correcting a child.
I have a recent post somewhat to the same effect, but frankly I do not believe in spanking. Sorry, but i can only mockingly raise my hand, but landing it on their bodies is a far cry…. i can howl and yell and discipline(dont we all?), but raising a hand coz they are not as powerful as we are…. out of the question.
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Spanking can sometimes be good to discipline children but you cannot abuse it! Parents who can discipline their children without spanking are better than those who use spanking … I think
All I can say is some kids need it and some probably don’t. We tried other methods with our youngest son. He kept getting in trouble and it got worse. One day, he and a friend broke some windows and got inside a vacant home for sale in our neighborhood. That was the limits for me. He was 11 years old than, but he still remembers his dad made him strip to his underwear and spanked him over his knee with a paddle. It was hard for mom here to watch, but I supported my husband. That wasn’t the end of all our troubles with this boy, but it made a difference. Today, he is successful in the financial services industry. Parents know best