Early Spankings Make for Aggressive Toddlers, Study Shows
I came across this article about a study who claimed that spanking makes kids aggressive and lower their IQ.
say what?

At the risk of sounding totally judgmental and bias I’m gonna say that is complete bologna! These studies usually study about 100 families at the time (I’m not so sure) So I’m gonna present my own study on about the same number.

I went to super ultra strict all girls catholic school, where we study latin, greek, memorize chapters of history and social sciences, math, physics and chemistry. Failure “to know your stuff” usually guarantee you a trip to sister Exume’s office for a skirt holding spanking. Although taking this trip down memory lane kinda make me slightly angry and wanna pull sister Exume’s wig out… (I never did) I’m in no way Aggressive! All the girl from my promotion are Doctors, Lawyers, Computer engineers, Nurses, Teachers… strong smart women. When we occasionally meet or facebook we hardly recall the spankings but all the good time and fun we’ve had in school.
My point is our IQ’s didn’t drop we grew up to be smart successful women.

That was just spanking at school… Now at home: although my mom had master “the look” (you know the one that goes “boy you gonna get IT”)to a point that she didn’t even need to spank anymore. Occasionally someone would get out of line and get spank. I got spank a number of time, My sister got spanked quite a lot, and my brother got spanked a whole lot. He is Electrical engineer graduate top in his call they even ran out A’s to give him. Great kid! never got him trouble or anything. My sister’s a Nurse smart successful woman also, and I am a computer engineer, happy, never been to a shrink chair nor plan to. We never got in a fight or behave anywhere aggressively. Once in a while I have to call on Jesus to help not pull someone wigs out… but who hasn’t? especially when someone walk up to me and told me my cute little baby was too FAT and I need to put her on a diet pfft!
(If you get a beat down it has nothing to do with me being spanked as a child) So my study totally contradict their study. I wonder what exactly they mean by “spanking”?

Spanking is NOT ABUSE! it’s not smashing heads and beating like they just stole from the king. The Bible say “spare the rods spoil the child” and turn around and said “do not irritate your child” so IMO spanking is not something you do out of anger, you don’t just lashed out on your kids like you crazy. Spanking is correcting with love and patience, not pounding on a child like a boxing bag. I’m pretty sure if we compare their idea of spanking and what I know we could probably agree on something… Anyway I know this is a sensitive subject so what do you think? were you spanked as a child? do you think it has affect you in any way? Do you spank your own kids? The floor is yours ladies!

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Prevention Works – Spread the Word: re-blog this, Tweet it, Facebook it, tell someone…

A few weeks ago I went to one of The “Prevention Works” workshop hosted by the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC). Quite frankly I went for the free lunch, but boy am I glad I like to eat. As they were going over the slides, state the numbers and show those videos my heart nearly stops. It was like an episode of criminal minds but only it was real. It is a crazy world out there! I feel it is my obligation to share this with you moms. I have a hard time putting my kids in the nursery for a few hours where I know they are being cared for. I can’t even imagine my child goes missing and not even know where to look. This is every parent’s nightmare, no moms want to be in the evening news about a missing child. Abduction is preventable Here are a few things you can do to make sure your kids are safe.

How parents can protect children from abduction
* Know where your children are at all times and who they are with.
* Never leave your child alone in a public place, stroller or car.
* Always accompany younger children to a public restroom.
* Teach your children not to accept rides and gifts from strangers.
* Always accompany your child on door-to-door activities, i.e. Halloween, school fundraising campaigns, etc.
* Establish a routine for picking your children up from school or other events.
* Agree on a simple code word for emergency situations. A trusted adult who knows the code word can pick up your child if necessary.
* Make sure your child knows their full name, address and phone number.
* Teach your child how to reach you (home, office, mobile)
* Teach your child how to call the police.
* Have a plan in case your child gets separated from you in public.
* Teach your child to stay in groups of friends when going anywhere .
* Tell your children about child abductions in simple and easy to understand terms. Awareness can help them protect themselves.
* Avoid clothing and toys with your child’s name on it. A child may not fear someone who knows his/her name.
* Promote an environment in which your child feels free to talk to you.
* Let your child know that you will pick them up at any time, any place.
* Listen closely when your child talks about friends or aquaintances they spend time with in your absence.
* Check all potential babysitters and older friends of your child.
* Teach your child to recognize suspicious behavior and collect descriptions.
* Urge your child to think escape / survival if he or she were ever abducted.
* Speak to your local law enforcement agency to find out about neighborhood watch.
* Get to know your neighbors and the children in the area. Make sure your child’s friends know your house is safe and they can seek help from you.
* Check with your local law enforcement to find out if there are sexual offenders in your area.
* Use a system such as KidSave to organize your child’s photo and child ID card with pertinent descriptive data.
* Keep up-to-date medical/dental history and finger print cards.
* Teach your child that there is always someone to help them, and they have the right to be safe.
Patterns of abduction
* In abduction cases, the first few hours are the most critical.
* 75% of abductions are by a family member or an acquaintance.
* Only 25% of kids are taken by strangers.The majority of these abductors are men
* When kids are taken by strangers, 66% of the victims are female children.
* 76% percent of victims are Caucasian females with and average age of 11 years.
* Infant abductions are fairly rare, but the abductors are usually women.
* Most abducted children are in their teens.
* Most abductors/predators are usually highly skilled in the art of manipulation.
* Abductors/predators often single out a lone child or one that is out late at night alone.
* Abductors/predators usually befriend their victim.
* Abductors/predators singls out children or teenagers that seem to have problems at home.
* Abductors/predators identify and pursue at-risk children or teens is.
* Many child abductors/predators were victims of domestic violence themselves.
* The majority of children reported missing are either run-aways or there has been a miscommunication with their parents.
Stranger Danger is not always true. While strangers do use tricks to abduct children stats shows that almost half the time its someone they know – so make sure you know who comes in contact with your children.

Recognizing signs of child sexual abuse
* Changes in behavior, extreme mood swings, withdrawal, fearlessness, excessive crying
* Bed-wetting, nightmares, fear of going to bed and sleep disorders
* Acting out inappropriate sexual activity or showing unusual interest in sexual matters
* A sudden acting out of feelings or aggressive, rebellious behavior
* Regression to infantile behavior
* A fear of certain places, people or activities
* Pain, itching, bleeding, fluid or rawness in the private areas

There are resources out there to help be sure to check out these site:

http://www.nsopw.gov

www.cybertipline.com

http://netsmartz411.org/

http://www.kidsave.com/

If you are a praying family, pray over your children they need God’s protection when we are not around.

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When we first got married we pretty much had no furniture, we had a giant TV and one white lawn chair. A few months later when our stuff start coming in we had a different project every week and pretty much lives in home depot. When we were done (sigh) it was like one of those HGTV house. We had a contemporary style living inspired by the beautiful south beach hotel we stayed in. Too bad I don’t have a picture to show you so you have to close your eyes and imagine the quietness and gorgeousness of this well kept and clean living area. Until now a 2 year and a 10months old later that’s my life after kids!
I call this one Clean war zone

And this is just a war zone

The funny thing is I don’t miss my HGTV house… Yeah I do… LOL… stop lying Well yea I miss it every night when I have to pick all this stuff up but we make up for it in hugs and kisses.

How is your home different from before you had kids? (besides the obvious of course)

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