Comments on: And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives

By: tnpacj

tnpacj — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 06:42:14 +0000

I am a fan of John Gottman’s work and know that it is respected and backed up with research. This book was definitely worth the read. I chose it to help prevent problems since we don’t have any children yet. I haven’t found anything else out there like it and would recommend it to friends. It’s nice to know there are some guidelines out there for something as specific as spousal relationships after bringing home a baby.

They share some interesting cases and give specific examples that I found comforting and useful. For example, using humor when asking your husband to help with the dishes is much nicer than the sarcasm I would normally use.

Also, I was pleased to see that they inform their readers of the importance of their marital relationship before and after birth on a child’s emotional & social development. Very compelling!

My only somewhat negative observation is about the exercises at the end of the chapters. They are a great idea, but I don’t know if I could get my husband to participate. I’m just grateful to have their suggestions as I enter this stage of life and will introduce the info to my husband if the opportunity presents itself.
Rating: 5 / 5

By: Selina J. Santos

Selina J. Santos — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 05:32:59 +0000

I’m 7m pregnant and my husband and I are extremely excited about our first baby, we are always looking for ways to keep our marriage on track. We are not experiencing any problems, We approach things in more preventative measures, it never hurts to keep educating ourselves. We have been reading this book and doing the excersises so when the baby does arrive and we run into issues we know how to tackle them. I recommend this book to anyone expecting. It serves as a great tool in relationships.
Rating: 5 / 5

By: S. Veeman

S. Veeman — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 05:19:36 +0000

Gottman is a genius when it comes to male/female relationships. I purchased this books as a gift for my friend when she found out she was expecting. Unfortunately, we didn’t learn of Gottman’s writing until after our children were born and we were in marital counseling. I’m hoping this book will help her be better prepared for the permanent changes that happen when adding a baby into a marriage. Maybe they can save the money on counseling
Rating: 5 / 5